[Rhodes22-list] Non-sailing Spouses (was Vancouver, BC)

[TN Rhodey]

Herb,  Sharing hobbies can be a good thing or a bad thing. From what I have
seen it depends on the circumstances. You don't want to ask my buddy what
happened after his wife took up golfing! :-)

My wife is mostly a fair weather sailor and sometime she goes sailing and
some time she doesn't.  To get J interested in sailing I resorted to the old
bait and switch. I got her hooked with repeated Hobie rentals in the
Caribbean. "Wow so this is what sailing is like....just push the boat off
the pretty white sand;;;;;". What's not to like? She also completed her PADI
SCUBA certification in Cayman Brac rather than the local quarry.

To her credit J has now been off shore in rough weather and came through
with flying colors. When cruising up the SE Coast a few years ago we hit the
front end of a Nor'easter while sailing North in the Gulf Stream. We
were aboard my Uncle's 35 foot Pearson and we decided to make for shore.

As the storm rolled in we slowly make our way the 80 miles into Jacksonville
FL. It was the roughest ride I had ever experienced. For those that have
never come in through the JAX inlet the Pilot Guide advises you to maintain
12 knots through the cut in a Nor'easter. Say what????  We were lucky to
push 6 knots!  The inlet is protected by 2 jetties and rolling breaking
waves were  pounding the North jetty crossing the channel trying to force us
into the South Jetty. If that trusty old diesel had decided to die then we
would have been on the rocks for sure.

Fair Winds,

Wally




On Fri, Jan 16, 2009 at 2:02 AM, Herb Parsons <hparsons at parsonsys.com>wrote:

> I'm curious, why is she a "decidedly non-sailing wife"?
>
> My wife "went along" with me on the sailboat thing, until I did some
> things that made her enjoy the experience more. I'd be curious hearing
> from the list. I'm sure everyone's spouse or significant other fits into
> one of three categories:
>
> 1 Decidedly non-sailing
> 2 Ambivalent about sailing
> 3 Enjoys sailing
>
> If your spouse is in category 1 or 2, what is it about the sport that
> keeps them from moving up a level? If they are in 2 or 3, what are you
> doing that keeps them from moving down a level?
>
> Face it, if your spouse or SO participates in your hobby, whatever it
> is, you will get to enjoy it more. If he/she does not, you'll often be
> faced with the decision of leave them behind or leave the sport behind.
> Neither is a good choice.
>
> Metaphor wrote:
> > A couple of questions:
> >
> > I will be in Vancouver, BC in mid June with my decidedly non-sailing
> wife.
> > However:
> >
> > We will be there a week, and as you know, absence makes the heart go
> fonder,
> > so, are there any Rhodes' sailors in Vancouver?  And if so, what would be
> a
> > good diversion for a couple of hours to get my wife off on her own while
> I
> > mooched a ride on the Pacific, dodging whales and such? (hint, hint...)
> >
> > More broadly, what is good and not so good, from personal experience as
> to
> > what to do (or not to) and where to (or not to) stay while in Vancouver,
> or
> > Victoria BC?
> >
> > Another sailing related question, are there any Rhodes currently sailing
> in
> > Europe, especially in Germany?
> >
>
> --
> Herb Parsons
>
>
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