[Rhodes22-list] Non-sailing Spouses

[elle]

John,

Learning to read the water to see the gusts coming would really give her confidence...(practice standing at the dock at first so she can get the idea..)...not only is it a new skill, but one she can use to help her comfort level...is she comfortable at the tiller? Easing upwind at the puff (watching the water to see it approach) & then falling off slightly will teach another skill and boost her 'control' level...

>It's a lot to absorb when you're nerves are already jangly.

Very true...if she has a task to focus on she may feel more in control & less 'jangly'....or put 'something' in her Coke & then maybe she just won't care...haha

elle

We can't change the angle of the wind....but we can adjust our sails.

1992 Rhodes 22   Recyc '06  "WaterMusic"   (Lady in Red)


--- On Fri, 1/16/09, John Lock <jlock at relevantarts.com> wrote:

> From: John Lock <jlock at relevantarts.com>
> Subject: Re: [Rhodes22-list] Non-sailing Spouses
> To: "The Rhodes 22 Email List" <rhodes22-list at rhodes22.org>
> Date: Friday, January 16, 2009, 12:21 PM
> Yes, I think that's true.  Although at this early stage
> in our sailing  
> experience it's hard to tell if her confidence will get
> reset over  
> winter or not.  Spring will tell.  Thanks for the tip. 
> That is  
> something we have done and it has been helpful.  Gusty
> winds are the  
> worst because she hasn't learned to react fast enough
> to release the  
> mainsheet.  She also needs to read water and other signs
> for a wind  
> change.  It's a lot to absorb when you're nerves
> are already jangly.
> 
> Cheers!
> John Lock
> ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
> s/v Pandion - '79 Rhodes 22
> Lake Sinclair, GA
> ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
> 
> 
> On Jan 16, 2009, at 12:10, elle wrote:
> > John,
> >
> > I always found that when we were new sailors I was
> less confident  
> > early in the season (after winter's layover) than
> later in the  
> > season after being out frequently.
> >
> > We may have discussed this before...but have you tried
> giving her  
> > the mainsheet & allowing her to spill wind if she
> becomes  
> > uncomfortable? You won't make much headway, but
> just the feeling of  
> > being in control and staying comfortable may help her
> to acclimate...
> >
> >
> > elle
> >
> > We can't change the angle of the wind....but we
> can adjust our sails.
> >
> > 1992 Rhodes 22   Recyc '06  "WaterMusic"
>   (Lady in Red)
> >
> >
> > --- On Fri, 1/16/09, John Lock
> <jlock at relevantarts.com> wrote:
> >
> >> From: John Lock <jlock at relevantarts.com>
> >> Subject: Re: [Rhodes22-list] Non-sailing Spouses
> >> To: "The Rhodes 22 Email List"
> <rhodes22-list at rhodes22.org>
> >> Date: Friday, January 16, 2009, 11:44 AM
> >> My wife falls into another 4th category.  She
> genuinely
> >> enjoys sailing
> >> as long as the angle of heel doesn't go past
> 10
> >> degrees.  If that
> >> happens, she gets a white-knuckle death grip on
> nearest
> >> handhold.
> >> She's convinced the boat is going to "tip
> >> over" and pitch us all in
> >> the water.  It's not rational and she admits
> that, but
> >> her terror is
> >> real enough.  Not sure where that comes from...
> >>
> >> So, we shorten sail early and head for cover if
> the wind
> >> pipes up.  Or
> >> I just go out alone if it's too windy for her.
>  It
> >> seems to be
> >> improving with time and experience.  Part of her
> fear was
> >> not knowing
> >> what to do in the boat.  As she gains confidence
> with the
> >> tiller and
> >> sail controls, I think it will get better.
> >>
> >> Cheers!
> >> John
> >>
> >> On Jan 16, 2009, at 02:02, Herb Parsons wrote:
> >>> 1 Decidedly non-sailing
> >>> 2 Ambivalent about sailing
> >>> 3 Enjoys sailing
> >>
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